Graham Cross remembers with sadness his Mum’s diagnosis of cancer of the oesophagus. It was 15 years ago and Lilian fought a long battle that ultimately ended at Mount Edgcumbe Hospice in St Austell. Graham’s father, Brian lived in the Lanhydrock area for another 12 years but never forgot the support provided by Cornwall Hospice Care, the charity that runs the two adult hospices in Cornwall. When he died he left a sizeable legacy to ensure the care can continue. Graham has shared his story in the run up to Cornwall Hospice Care’s Make A Will Week, which runs from 11th to 15th May this year. 

Graham says it was hard to cope when his Mum decided she wanted to let things progress naturally so she could enjoy her remaining time with her family and as comfortably as possible; 

“We wanted the best for Mum in her final months and she moved to Mount Edgcumbe Hospice. The staff could not do enough for us. They were so supportive and genuine when everything seemed so negative. We even got to spring her out a few times for lunch and walks above Fowey estuary.  The hospice staff prepared us for what lay ahead, which although awful to confront, made it easier when it came. Mum never felt any pain thanks to their constant and attentive care.”

“Finally she slipped in to a coma. In her room at Mount Edgcumbe we sat with her, talked with her, held her hand, brushed her hair, read to her and drank endless tea. Right up to the end I was able to slumber in an armchair alongside her, all night if I wanted. I knew she was leaving but I could not let her go. Then one night I went home with Dad, so he was not alone. In the early hours I awoke to the phone ringing. It was Mount Edgcumbe calling. I went through to his bedroom and he quietly said ‘She’s away’. That was June 2002, but it seems like yesterday.”

“Dad never forgot the professionalism and kindness of Mount Edgcumbe Hospice in providing a caring environment for Lilian’s last, valuable moments with us. He changed his Will to leave a sizeable legacy to Cornwall Hospice Care in order to contribute in any way he could to help ensure their care continues for others.”

Legacies are vital to Cornwall Hospice Care and help fund all the charities nurses for 9 months of the year. With support that could be increased to 12 months. Debbie Henshaw is the charity’s Legacy Manager;

“Gifts in wills to Cornwall Hospice Care really do make a difference to our patients and their families. They help fund the nursing staff to provide the compassionate support we offer, they bring in funds to meet the medical costs and they ensure we can continue to provide our care free of charge. “

“All we ask is that if there is a bit of money left after you’ve provided for your family and friends, you consider leaving a percentage to our charity in your Will. And to help with the process, solicitors from across Cornwall will be offering their time free of charge to write standard Wills or update existing Wills in the week 11th to 15th May.”

“Rather than charging the usual fee, the solicitors will ask for a donation to Cornwall Hospice Care.  For standard Wills this will be £75 for a single Will, £110 for a pair of husband and wife ‘Mirror’ Wills and £40 for a Codicil to update an existing Will.  You can of course donate more than the suggested amount or you may choose to also include Cornwall Hospice Care in your Will. A legacy gift costs you nothing today.”

Cornwall Hospice Care is a Cornish charity that provides special care for families facing life limiting illnesses. Patients are cared for free of charge at their two hospices at Mount Edgcumbe in St Austell and St Julia’s In Hayle. 

Below is a list of participating solicitors and for more information you can call Debbie Henshaw on 01726 874065 or visit our website www.cornwallhospicecare.co.uk

Borlase and Company - 45, Coinagehall Street, Helston, TR13 8EU - 01326 574988

Charles French and Co

6a, Church Street, Mevagissey, PL26 6SP - 01726 842911

Quayside House, Newham Road, Truro, TR1 2DP - 01872 263813

9a, Fore Street, St Austell, PL25 5PX - 01726 67660

Curtis Law LLP - Unit 13-14, Marine Drive, Torpoint, PL11 2EH - 01752 931004

Curtis Whiteford Crocker - 87-89 Mutley Plain, Plymouth, PL4 6JJ - 01752 201458

Davies Partnership Solicitors - 6, Vicarage Road, St Agnes, TR5 0TJ – 01872 553131

DB Law

13, Chapel Street, Camborne, TR14 8EJ – 01209 712428

5, The Moor, Falmouth, TR11 3UF – 01326 318110

3a, Alverton Street, Penzance, TR18 2QH – 01736 364261

Poldhu High Street, St Ives, 01736 795618

GreenwaysLaw – 19, St Michael’s Road, Newquay, TR7 1LL – 01637 872361

Hine Downing – 8-14 Berkeley Vale, Falmouth, TR11 3PA – 01326 316655

John Whiting and Co – 27, Westgate Street, Launceston, PL15 7AD – 01566 777677

Macmillans – Manor House, Bridgend, Wadebridge, PL27 6BS – 01208 812415

Merricks – Cross Street, Wadebridge, PL27 7DT – 01208 812068

Nalders

6, Chapel Street, Camborne, TR14 8EG – 01209 714278

49, Arwenack Street, Falmouth, TR11 3LE – 01326 313441

32a, Coinage Hall Street, Helston, TR13 8EQ – 01326 574001

11, Beachfield Avenue, Newquay, TR7 1DP – 01637 871414

First floor, 104, Market Jew Street, Penzance, TR18 2LE – 01736 364014

9a, Fore Street, St Austell, PL25 5PX – 01726 74414

Cannis House, Chapman’s Way, St Austell, PL25 4QU – 01726 879333

Farley House, Falmouth Road, Truro, TR1 2HX – 01872 241414

Nigel Pullen LLP

18, Castle Street, Truro, TR1 3AF – 01872 274404

The Old Station Business Park, Station Road, Perranporth, TR6 0LH – 01872 571046

Sampson Solicitors – 8, Belle Vue, Bude, EX23 8JL – 01288 353542

Sharp and Rimmer – Hillhead, Place Creek, St Mawes, TR2 5AL – 01326 270291