Uncomfortable as it may seem, it’s important to talk about dying, death and bereavement.  If you are living with a terminal illness by planning ahead you can make sure your wishes are heard and you can make as many memories as possible and achieve goals you may have set for yourself.  If you are caring for someone who is dying you can help by talking to them and listening.

This is Dying Matters Week (8th to the 14th May) and we've been sharing the thoughts of Terry from St Austell who recently spent time in the care of the nursing team at Mount Edgcumbe Hospice. In a series of recordings, Terry talks about the importance of setting goals, of his faith and his family. 

It is with great sadness that we share the news that Terry died last night (11th May). His wife says he was proud to help others by sharing his story and has asked us to continue featuring Terry who has given comfort to others with his words.  He has been an inspiration to us all and our thoughts are with his family and his many friends at this very sad time.   

As part of our Dying Matters Week project we hosted a live discussion on Facebook last night (Thursday 11th May) to answer questions sent in by members of the public.  Hosted by Tamsin Thomas, the event involved Bernice Saitch (Senior Staff Nurse at Mount Edgcumbe Hospice) and Nettie Goodwin (Staff Nurse and part of the patient and family support team at Mount Edgcumbe). We recorded the discussion so you can watch it at a time to suit you. This is part one of the discussion, and part 2 follows on below:



Part 2 of our Dying Matters Week discussion:



In the final part of his interview, Terry talks about what's important to him at this stage of his life, including his family and his faith:



In part 3 Terry says what matters to him now is being positive and feeling he is in control of his life:




 

In part 2 Terry reflects on the care he received at Mount Edgcumbe Hospice where he says the experience surpassed his expectations. All he knew of hospice care before being a patient himself, was when he visited a friend who was dying:


   

In part 1 Terry talks of his aim to leave the hospice for a day to watch Plymouth Argyle secure promotion to League One: